How do you reconcile grief from an early miscarriage with Pro-Choice views?

I had a miscarriage a few months ago. It’s gotten a lot better since then. But I’m still looking for some literature to help me through it. I’m having a really hard time finding anything helpful, as most of the books I’ve found tend to spout off about God and the Bible. I’m glad that some people can find solace in that, but that’s just not me. I don’t want to read about God sending me little angels that have to return to heaven.
That idea makes me want to punch someone in the face.

At the same time, I’m having a hard time talking to my friends about it without sounding like some crazed Pro-Life person myself. That’s not me either. I’m Pro-Choice and believe that a woman has a right to decide. I don’t equate having an abortion to killing a baby. But I also don’t think that what I lost was just a bunch of cells either.

How do you talk to people when you don’t even know what you believe? I know what I believe in my gut. I just don’t know how to put it into words that will make sense to someone else. This makes me feel more alone. How to get past this?