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How should I handle the new roommate situation for this upcoming year?

Asked by SassyPink (284points) September 20th, 2011

***NOTE: So there are two different versions of my question below. The Second version is the one WITHOUT the parenthesis and the paragraph is shorter. The first original parenthesis version was just there to give a little background information about my problems. So you can pick whichever version you feel comfortable reading. They’re both pretty much the same… except that the second version is the shorter one of course.

FIRST VERSION:
So I’m about to start my classes within less than a week from now, which also falls around the same week as moving day. I’m also about to move into a suite-style dormitory for the first time this year but with three random roommates. My two friends from last year, lets call them “K” and “L”, were originally going to be my roommates before but unfortunately neither of them can’t afford to live on campus anymore. (K, L and I all used to live in the single dormitory on the same floor last year.) I just found this out from them at the very last minute via a phone call last weekend. (The reason why “K” couldn’t be my roommate anymore is because she couldn’t afford to go to school at all this year. “L” decided to live off campus instead with a friend and two other random roommates for a cheaper price. :/ Then again, my friend “L” is sometimes a little unreliable  when it comes to making plans to do something.  Her only excuses are either  “Oops, I forgot” or that she is too busy  with her other plans. But that’s a whole another story of its own.shrugs). This news kinda bums me out a bit because I was looking forward to have close friends as my roommates this time around with only one random person. I’m a little shy when it comes to meeting new people (Basically I’m one of those people who are only shy around complete strangers or other people who doesn’t take any interest in you i.e. rarely talks, but outgoing around friends and family members. It’s like being two different persons). I’m afraid that I might not know how to handle being alone with 3 strangers as my roommates. I also don’t know if they’ll eventually be good roommates or not, or if I’ll start to feel isolated from them if things didn’t work out well. Or possibly, these three girls could already be friends with each other which makes me their random roommate. So I don’t t know what to really expect at this point.

Anyways, I’m sorry if this question sounds like I’m rambling or speculating too much. :/  I guess the point of what I am trying to make in this paragraph is how should I handle the new roommate situation for this upcoming year? Do I also have the right to be a little upset with my friends for NOT telling me about their problems over the break?  (Considering that we all have turned in our housing applications as roommates a few months ago.) I honestly wouldn’t mind if they couldn’t afford to live on campus anymore because of financial reasons, that’s understandable, except that they never mention this to me before. Not at all. It wasn’t until last week when I called to them both to see how are they doing.

SECOND VERSION:
So I’m about to start my classes within less than a week from now, which also falls around the same week as moving day. I’m also about to move into a suite-style dormitory for the first time this year but with three random roommates. My two friends from last year, lets call them “K” and “L”, were originally going to be my roommates before but unfortunately neither of them can’t afford to live on campus anymore. I just found this out from them at the very last minute via a phone call last weekend. This news kinda bums me out a bit because I was looking forward to have close friends as my roommates this time around with only one random person. I’m a little shy when it comes to meeting new people. I’m afraid that I might not know how to handle being alone with 3 strangers as my roommates. I also don’t know if they’ll eventually be good roommates or not, or if I’ll start to feel isolated from them if things didn’t work out well. Or possibly, these three girls could already be friends with each other which makes me their random roommate. So I don’t t know what to really expect at this point.

Anyways, I’m sorry if this question sounds like I’m rambling or speculating too much. :/  I guess the point of what I am trying to make in this paragraph is how should I handle the new roommate situation for this upcoming year? Do I also have the right to be a little upset with my friends for NOT telling me about their problems over the break? I honestly wouldn’t mind if they couldn’t afford to live on campus anymore because of financial reasons, that’s understandable, except that they never mention this to me before. Not at all. It wasn’t until last week when I called to them both to see how are they doing.

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