Is it possible to avoid turning into my grandmother?

Asked by ItalianPrincess1217 (11979) October 25th, 2011 from iPhone

As much as it makes me cringe to admit it, I see some traits of myself in my grandmother and it worries me more than you’d think. The whole family is aware of how difficult and crazy she can be. But as more time goes by and I get older, I am starting to realize that I may be developing the same issues she has. I love her because she’s my grandma, but if she weren’t related, I would stay far away from that woman. She is negative, self centered, dramatic, bi-polar, anxious, depressed, and insists on ruining almost any situation. In her defense, she really doesn’t intend on causing so many problems. But she always manages to. I have always shook my head in disbelief at her ways but recently I have started to see myself behaving in similar ways. I’m concerned. It’s very hard to admit but I can’t ignore the facts. So my question is, can my behavior be changed? Can I beat genetics? Or is everyone’s personality already pre-determined? Should I seek therapy to insure that I steer clear of her negative traits? This may sound awful but I am very worried that I will end up a spitting image of her when I’m that age. If you knew my grandmother, you’d understand my concern.