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Do the people that your spouse or S/O finds attractive have similar features to yours?

Asked by ANef_is_Enuf (26839points) December 5th, 2011

Whether it is a celebrity that you know they find attractive, or their ex, or someone you’ve seen them checking out in public, or if they are open enough to tell you when someone is attractive to them.

I can’t remember where (but I will look), but I read a study that said that women will attempt to emulate the appearance of other women that their spouse finds attractive, if they are able. I don’t know if the same is true for men, but it specifically said that women will commonly do this… and that if the other person resembles them in some way, it will reaffirm their belief that their spouse finds them attractive.

I’m asking this question because I was browsing through photos of a celebrity that I know my husband finds attractive, just out of curiosity, not because he likes her. But a few photos in, I caught myself comparing myself to her. It wasn’t until I thought to myself “maybe I should dye my hair,” that I realized what I was actually doing.

So, do you compare yourself to other people your spouse finds attractive? Does it bother you if they don’t have certain features in common with you?

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