Jellies- I need doggie help.

My furbaby is 13. She recently had surgery to remove a tumor and a bladder stone. She is now peeing on herself all the time, not out of a behavioral problem, but because she just can’t hold it in. I’ve already given her two full weeks of Clavamox and it didn’t help, so I don’t think she has a bladder infection after the stone removal. She just has no bladder control now and even pees in her sleep.

She’s getting more jittery, too, and reminds me of a shaky chihuahua, and she seems to have lost a little of her personality “sparkle”. She’s not as excited about people as she used to be, and doesn’t give us her tongue lolling doggie smile. She still enjoys rolling in the grass for a minute when I take her outside, but then she comes back to the patio and lays down. When we’re in the house she just sleeps all the time.

My husband wonders, since she’s fairly old and seems to be declining, if it’s time to “let her go to sleep” but I just don’t know. I’m also waiting to have a conversation with our vet and explain everything to him, but I wanted your opinions too.