Why do some people seem to consider it unacceptable for a woman in a relationship to want to be a wife and mother?

I’ve paid plenty of attention to human behaviour over the years and there are people who judge a woman for simply wanting to be a wife and mother. Why is this so bad?

Even in my own experiences, I’ve noticed it. I have wanted to be a wife and mother for a long time underneath it all, but I’ve been shamed into thinking that I shouldn’t want this for myself. It’s not like I wanted it right that moment. Of course I wanted to wait until I was more settled down with my life and could be with someone who wanted the same things with me.

So, why did this scare at least one guy away? I don’t get it. It was very telling when this guy advised me not to talk about marriage with a boyfriend I had after him. O_O What he suggested was to pretty much not let that guy know I was ever interested in marriage if I didn’t want to scare him away! What?

I now feel like I have to hide this… like I shouldn’t be honest about what I want for myself in the future if I want someone to stay… and that feels too dishonest. I don’t want to do that!

I’ve noticed other women who have been in similar situations and I don’t think it’s fair.

Are men ever treated the same way for simply wanting to be a husband and a father one day? If not, why?