Are there any Christian denominations out there that don't aggressively try to convert people or tell others that they'll go to hell if they don't accept Christ?

I was raised in a protestant denomination that doesn’t do these things, but almost every other “Christian” I’ve met outside of my own specific denomination has always been much more aggressive with their opinions of what it means to be Christian. This has been a really big turn off for me, which sometimes makes me feel like I’m not Christian enough because I can’t relate to others who call themselves Christians.

Am I just running into a lot of extremist Christians, or is it something else? Are there other Christian denominations that don’t have extreme values that almost seem “unchrist-like”?

I know these questions are very serious and could offend some people, but I’ve really been struggling with this for a long time, and it would be really helpful if I could get some good answers.