What happens inside you during that final interval--when you know, and they don't?

You’ve decided to break it off.

Your lover, your spouse, your employee, your client, your friend: you’re about to tell them you’re through.

Maybe it was a long time coming, maybe you knocked yourself out to make it work, maybe it was doomed from the start. Maybe something just snapped. At any rate, it’s over now. And you know it.

But they don’t, not yet.

During that little interval when you’ve decided, but you haven’t yet said the words, what happens to your feelings? What changes in how you see the other person, the relationship, yourself?