Is it an unreasonable request for a wife to ask her husband to assert himself more as a man and "be the husband"? And what about the other way around (a man asking his wife to be more wife-like)

This may sound trivial, but I saw this question on another website, and it bothered me. It bothered me that this person (the husband) was actually seeking advice on how to be more assertive and man-like for his wife. And then it bothered me that most people were offering advice.

This bothered me because my initial reaction was to wonder why he should have to change, and why no one seemed to care about a request for someone to become more “gendered” (if that’s a word).

Am I “overreacting”, or is this a reasonable thing to ask of someone in 2012?