Does a patriarchal society itself help to oppress men more than the feminist movement?

There are many men’s rights (MR) organizations out there, and many of these MR advocates tend to place the blame of their problems on progressive and/or feminist agenda. Just to mention a few of these concerns that MRA bring up include child custody issues, violence/rape against men receiving less attention, males being expected to hold their feelings/emotions in, males not being able to express their feelings or concerns as easily as women, dating issues, etc.

Critics of the men’s rights advocates say that it is other men within the patriarchal structure of our society that oppresses other men. Here is a breif critique of men’s rights advocates, which I think brings up some decent counterarguments to their (MRA) claims.

Some people may counter some of the pro-feminist arguments by claiming that many women themselves expect many gender related things of men to be adhered to, so this issue goes deeper than just patriarchal gender standards. Also, there are different types of men’s rights movements, of which some may have different goals than others. The most major examples of these are the different agendas of liberal masculists vs conservative masculists.

What I’m really asking here is whether men are the blame for their own concerns or not, relating to social gender roles, along with the expectations of men that come with these.