Are you grateful to any of your exes?

If so, for what? Have you ever told them this?

I’m grateful to my first girlfriend, who loved me when I felt unloveable and didn’t even know who I was at the time. We’re still friends and I’ve expressed to her several times that I am thankful for our time together, and I am happy to know she feels the same way.

I’m grateful to my most recent long-term ex, who not only helped me realize I was trans but helped me through so much of my transition, and taught me what I should expect in a good partner. As luck would have it, that relationship ended rather badly and we are no longer in touch! But I will never stop being grateful to her for these things.

And I’m grateful to the guy I most recently broke up with. It was short and intense, and he told me his dream was to spoil me, so I’d never again waste my time and passion on someone unworthy. I think he has succeeded. We are still friends and able to talk about what we gave each other.