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Did you ever want to be sexually involved with someone, but didn't because of the potential social costs?

Asked by wundayatta (58722points) July 27th, 2012

If so, what were the social costs you were concerned about? Later on, did you wish you hadn’t made that decision?

By social costs, I mean things like you wouldn’t want to get a reputation as a slut or player. Or you didn’t want to have to tell someone in the future how many lovers you might have had. You can tell me about other social costs that have played into your thinking.

I ask about social costs as opposed to moral beliefs. It is different to say you wouldn’t sleep with someone because you didn’t want to be seen as promiscuous than it is to make the same choice because you think it is morally wrong. This question is purely about the social cost of promiscuity, not any moral considerations. Someone who declines an opportunity for a sexual relationship for moral reasons will not be thinking about the social costs of such a relationship.

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