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How can my girlfriend successfully escape the control of her parents?

Asked by poisonedantidote (21675points) November 1st, 2012

Ok, for those who don’t know, here is the back story…

Me and my girlfriend have know each other for about 4 to 5 years now, and have been together as a couple more or less 24/7 for the past year now.

She is currently back in Taiwan, finishing her last year of university. Once she has finished university, she will return to Spain with me, and we will get married.

Her parents are highly racist towards white people, as such they have refused to even say hello to me, despite many attempts.

We have now given up on the idea of trying to bring the parents along on the ride, and plan to elope.

The problem is, that while my girlfriend is living in Taiwan, she is forced to live with her parents. I don’t mean she has no other option or can’t afford rent. I mean she is literally being forced by her parents to live with them.

She has now booked a flight back to Spain, and has started to get the necessary papers so that we can get married when she returns. This is all being done in secret.

At some point in May-June next year, my girlfriend is going to have to pack her bags and come back to Spain. This causes a problem, as her parents can’t see her packing any bags.

If her parents know she is trying to leave for Spain, it is quite likely that she will be shoved in to a car and taken off to some rural place with relatives, basically being kidnapped.

I know what I would do in her situation if I was her, and there is no way I would be stopped. However she is not as strong as me, and comes from a very different culture.

She could simply call the police, and there would be nothing the parents can do to stop her. However, we would like to leave that as a last resort.

Can you think of any ways, that a 50 kilo girl can escape with 20 kilos of luggage to another country, without letting her parents know what is happening until it is too late?

So far, we have considered the following options:

- Telling a lie. She could say she is going on a graduation trip to Hong Kong or something, and instead leave for Spain, however it is unlikely the parents would be fooled by this.

- Posting the luggage now slowly over time, and in May-June of next year, simply go out for “a bite to eat” and just vanish.

- Get the police involved, so she is allowed to leave without forceful attempts to stop her.

Whatever happens, the parents will fail in stopping her from leaving. If need be she will come back with the clothes on her back and ID, with a few vitals posted on ahead of her.

Having said that, her parents could cause unnecessary delays and problems. A missed flight would equate to a loss of about $1200.00 USD. It would be nice to do without all that.

If push really comes to shove, I can always make my way to Taiwan and escort her back, but again, this would cost about a thousand bucks.

Any ideas?

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