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Standards and Principals: Is it worth paying lipservice to a religion you don't believe in if it gets you what you want?

Asked by poisonedantidote (21611points) December 3rd, 2012

As some of you may know from past posts and questions of mine, I am currently trying to arrange my wedding.

I am an atheist, who is also some what of an anti-theist, and my girlfriend is an atheist who is a little superstitious about some things, and who comes from a Buddhist family, even though she does not believe any of it.

Because of this, we first looked at the registry office when we decided we wanted to get married.

However, the registry office path is a bit of a nightmare. Not only do we need to source 5 different papers each, from a total of 3 different countries, but we also need to have them all translated, notarized and legalized by lawyers and judges. On top of this, we need to do it all in a 3 month window, as some papers are only valid for 3 months before they expire.

Needless to say, it is all a bit of an expensive pain in the ass to pull off. You are talking $2000 just on flights, before you even get your first paper. Not forgetting all the legal fees and other hidden costs down the path.

However, there is an easier solution.

If we go to church, and let some old man put water on our heads, he can then bypass all the need for papers, by using his funky magic powers to tell god to make us married.

As this is officially a Catholic country, his word outranks the government in these matters.

The whole process would take an afternoon, and would be far cheaper.


As I feel it is my birthright to be able to marry whoever I like, without the need of approval of anyone else, I have no moral problem taking advantage of the system and using the church to get what I want.

But I do have a bit of a problem, in terms of associating with them in an official capacity. I know I will end up on some register, and will be counted as one of them in their eyes.

Now, as I think it is all a bunch of nonsense anyway, I don’t really mind them thinking I am one of them, except in the sense that it is kind of like voting for them.

If I add my name to them, it gives them another member, and they get to claim how many members they have as they go about their business.

I don’t like the idea, that in a sense it is like a vote for them, and permission to act in my name.

What would you do?

If you were a PETA member, would you allow KFC to use your name if it meant you could get married?

Is it worth paying lipservice to a religion you don’t believe in if it gets you what you want?

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