Is visualizing physically hurting someone a red flag of abuse?

My boyfriend and I went to the movies. While at the movies, I asked to talk to him about something that was really bothering me and his response was “there is nothing to talk about” This made me very angry because this is not the first time that he has dismissed my concerns or feelings. I had reached my boiling point and told him to break up with me and to take me home. At first he ignored me but after my repeated expressions of wanting to go home he grabbed me up and broke my 3D glasses. He then got up and left the the theatre to take me home. While in the car, he started to drive very reckless. I asked him again if we could talk but he ignored it. He dropped me off at my parents house and proceeded to tell them how I embarrassed him and hurt him at the movies. They were on his side and made me feel really bad about what I had done and the thought of hurting him hurt me and I tried to apologize. He was very mean and unforgiving at my attempts to apologize. He ignored me for 3 days telling my family that he was going to make me eat my words. When he finally did talk to me he admitted to me that while in the car coming home from the movies that he visualized himself slamming my face into the window. he also admitted that during the 3 days he ignored me, he knew I was hurting, and enjoyed it. Needless to say, things were never the same and I was continuously punished for that incident at the movies, despite my genuine attempts to fix it. Were these signs of abuse, was there something that I did to cause this type of treatment?

I know many may say that I shouldn’t have told him to break up with me. I didn’t really want him to break up with me, my anger just got the best of me at that moment. The truth is I felt crazy when I was with him. My emotions, concerns, feelings, never seemed to matter to him, he would always brush them off as not important, or tell me I get mad at stupid sh*t or he would tell me not to feel that way. No matter how I tried, I could not get him to see or understand how I was feeling.

*I am being counseled from the trauma I experienced from this relationship. Part of my assignments from my sessions is to talk about the things that have transpired which should help brighten my awareness of what was happening, and what I didn’t see. thanks in advance for all your responses and opinions.