Who are we?

Obviously this question will vary according to the individual. I was just wondering if most people knew. Also if there was a consensus.

Are we our thoughts or actions, a mix? Are we a series of events or a collage of epiphanies. Are we defined by our struggles or day to day life, our successes? Our dreams past future present or goals?

What are you defined by? Do you hold yourself to rigorous standards? Quashing the unruliness out. Granting yourself little leeway or do you take a more laissez faire approach?

Mostly are you guilt ridden, obsessed with imperfections. Or are you kinder, embracing them as uniquely you.