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What can I do about my husbands addiction to the internet?

Asked by Windmill (509points) September 3rd, 2013

In December my husband got a new smart phone. He always has to have the latest gadgets. He HAD to have internet on it, which costs us $25 extra a month. It pisses me off because all he uses it for is Facebook and games. We have a home computer that he could play on, but he just HAD to have it on his phone so we’re paying $25 a month FOR FACEBOOK.

At first he was looking through my Facebook page, and that was fine, but I kept telling him to make his own account. Finally we did (I had to set it up for him.)

Then I introduced him to Words With Friends…and that’s all she wrote.

He gets home from work at 5:30, changes, then he’s hunched over his phone like some overgrown moronic teenager until he goes to bed, 6 hours later. (He’s 62 btw.)

Mother’s day we had family over. He spent most of the time hunched over his phone. It was SO rude, but I think he saw it as showing everyone how savvy and COOL he was for an old guy.

We used to spend Saturday mornings on the deck just talking, then we’d go to breakfast. Now Saturday mornings consist of me sitting on the deck watching him all hunched over his phone.

I kept thinking he’d get over the newness of it, so I’ve been waiting, but it’s been 10 months! If anything, it’s just getting worse!

I finally ran away from home last Saturday. I was up at 7:30, he got up an hour later, got coffee and immediately got on his phone.
The morning kept slipping past and I was STARVING, but all he did was play on his phone, hour after hour.
About 11:30 I went in the house and slammed the door.
That got his attention. He came in, asked if I wanted to go eat. I said “No. You take your phone to breakfast.”
He left, and I went to my daughter’s and we spent the day together. It was quite a fun time, too! And I’ll do it again next week if I have to because she’s a lot of fun to be with.
I’m sure he was shocked when he got home and I wasn’t there. I didn’t come home until about 6:00 that night, still barely talking to him.

I’ve been on several social networking sites over the years, but I put restraints on my self. I just stay off of them after 5:00, except for an occasional check in to Face Book or to verify some bit of information via Wiki or something. Takes just a couple of minutes. Weekends I cut WAY back on my internet usage.

He tries to compare me checking in once in a while to him being on the internet hour after hour after hour. “You do it! You just went in there and got on Face Book!”
“Yes, that was 2 minutes ago during a commercial break. Now I’m back out here watching the movie YOU picked out. It’s half way through and you have no idea what the movie is even about because you’ve been playing on your phone!”
Then he tries to call me a hypocrite.

What do I do?????

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