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How do I talk to him? Please help!

Asked by laura98 (191points) February 10th, 2014

So there is this extremely handsome, sweet, shy guy that goes to my school. We have Algebra 2, Lunch, and English together, but the only class where we sit somewhat close to each other is Algebra and my teacher hates when students talk. Anyway, it was around December when I decided to possibly turn the gears and actually try to talk with him at least. Well, I’m an extremely passionate person and I suppose my ideas for advancing romantically on someone are at times a bit extreme. I was somewhat naive and told one of my friends if it was alright if I asked him to the upcoming winter formal. Well she ended up telling a lot of people and he found out.

He said to my friend that he wouldn’t go with me because he didn’t know me that well, which is completely understandable, but it bummed me out. At the dance my friend actually went up to him and he said he didn’t like me that way. I may have been out of hand, but I honestly was on the verge of tears.

I somewhat moped around school dragging my feet to and from each class wondering what was so wrong with me that he didn’t in the least bit find me somewhat attractive. I of course am in no way mad at him for not liking me, but more mad at myself. I didn’t even know the kid that well. We said about two words to each other and sometimes exchanged glances, that was it.

I was thinking, could he have just said he didn’t like me because he has no clue of the person I am? He doesn’t know my personality. Personally, if I don’t find a guy attractive at first they usually grow on me as I talk with them more. Their personality takes over and makes them this lovely person whom I’m both physically and emotionally attracted to.

Overall, I haven’t talked to him/ associated with him for a couple months out of complete embarrassment, but I still see him and my heart flutters a bit. I just want to know if I still have a chance and if so, how would I even possibly be able to get to know him? He’s incredibly shy, but the most adorable thing. I wouldn’t even mind just being friends because he seems like such a genuine person. I don’t know how to talk to him and I just want at least a chance to show him this person who is hiding on he inside. Please help and thank you very kindly to anyone who answers!

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