Are you nosy?

I had a discussion with a friend yesterday. When someone tells you something like “I have to go to the doctor,” or “My boyfriend and I had a huge fight,” or “Things are tough for my mom right now,” are you the type to ask follow-up questions?

My thinking is that I will empathize, and I will let someone know I’m here, but I stop there. I figure if they want to discuss it or give me details they will start the conversation. I am definitely willing to listen, but I don’t pry or get personal unless someone opens the door. If we’re talking about your weekend then I ask for details all day long. It’s personal things I don’t pry on.

Some people interpret that as being aloof or not being interested. That is definitely not the case, but how do I make it clear that I am supportive without being nosy? I already say I am here if needed, and I empathize. I’m not naturally a coddling type, but I don’t like coming off as disinterested, either…

My girlfriend says it’s a guy trait and that it’s women that are judging me for not being nosy. I do have a problem connecting with a lot of women because I can talk a lot but don’t express emotions much. I do care, help!