Should I be hurt or angry about my son in law doing this to us?

This is hard to encapsulate but I’ll try. In twenty five years my son in law has been to our homes once for ten minutes (to change clothes in a bathroom). The reasons he snubs us are we have helped, tremendously , my other daughter who he feels didn’t deserve helping and he’s probably right. He also does not like nor respect people who don’t have a job since he works 120 hours per week. If you don’t work you’re dog meat regardless of age or financial need to his way of thinking. I think he also resents the fact that my husband’s family all come from money; big Texas and Chicao money while his parents have never given him anything. Only to his brothers. When he is forced to be around me I get a hug and a, “how are you?” I am so resentful of him I cannot express it but he’s married to my wonderful daughter (who he’d like to pull away from me). Please don’t suggest I “sit down and have a talk ” since he lives out of town and I see him twice a year. What I would say would involve such profanity and anger I can’t do it . Should I learn to live with it since he and my daughter will be all I’ll really have close by someday? The thought scares me. Or, should I move back to my hometown where I have lots of friends who are so nice to me? It’s over a thousand miles from here and they’re getting up in age too. I’m so sorry this was super long. It’s a rant. Don’t think I’m rich. I buy my stuff on Ebay and my parents were raised poor.