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He can't cook or clean?

Asked by cutiepi92 (2252points) June 10th, 2014

My boyfriend was raised essentially by a single mother who babies the heck out of him. I know this, he knows this. He’s 23 years old and to this day she STILL pitches a fit if he steps foot in the kitchen and tries to cook himself. She always wants to do everything for him.

When it comes to cleaning, he doesn’t know how to do it properly or very well because quite frankly his mother can’t clean either. The house is kind of dirty, much more so than I’m used to at home. They don’t own household cleaner for crying out loud! But he insists that he can “clean”, but his version of “cleaning” is completely half assed. As in, if I cleaned that badly growing up I’d be grounded all the time.

It’s reached a point where I really don’t know what to do. He understands he can’t cook, but only sorta wants to learn. I am perfectly willing to teach him though. He gets mad if I talk about his cleaning skills because he thinks he’s fine when he’s not. I would teach him that too but he thinks he knows enough I want to know if there is a way to show/teach him? I love him very much, and we’ve been together a long long time and have spoken of marriage, but truthfully I can not live with a man who doesn’t know how to cook or clean at all. And the most irritating thing is that he keeps the inside and outside of his car spotless, but doesn’t know clean an actual house :( How do I approach this? I’m not going to break up with him over his lack of skills because I think it’s his mother’s fault for babying him and not giving him basic survival skills. But still, I feel I should be able to do something

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