Is it rude to invite guests over for dinner and request a list for them to bring?

Asked by chelle21689 (7907) September 17th, 2014 from iPhone

I notice my cousin does this pretty much all the time every time she has a get together or invite me for dinner. That is why I end up saying “No.” most of the time. I mean, I get it to be polite and bring something small like wine, dessert, or snack but a list? I thought she wanted to be nice and hang out and catch up inviting me over for home made sushi from fish her boyfriend caught. I accepted the invite and she does her infamous list giving and then callig back an hour later to tell me what else she needs.
Example: bring sea weed wraps, panko crumbs, cucumber, Japanese mayo, and seasoning.

Granted I live near my parents Asian store I still pay out of pocket getting this from them. Situations like these happen all the time.

One time she said we could come over for wine and burgers and then we did. She called us on our way saying to bring grapes, summer sausage, and crackers. The store was next to her house but still…
I should’ve learned my lesson. I would bring it up but I have a feeling it would be a big argument and her proving logically why.
She already knows she is known for brig stingy with money and my sisters joke about how she “dictates” what people bring.
I get invites to people’s dinners and they never give me a list. My sisters never do that to me. I don’t do this to people.