Have you ever known someone who is angry all the time, and also blames other people for mistakes that are obviously their own mistakes?

My ex had an uncle like that. The tension surrounding him all the time was palpable, like he was just going to explode at any second. He had quadruple bypass heart surgery by the time he was 50.

He had some pretty horrific experience in occupied Holland during WWII. A soldier put him against a wall, said he was going to shoot him. As a 9 year old boy, he was terrified. The soldier thought it was funny, because he was “just joking.” I think those experiences really shaped him as an adult.

One time my daughter was a passenger in a car he was driving. Without paying attention he blindly followed another car onto the exit ramp, realized it wasn’t an exit he wanted to take….then yelled at my daughter for “letting him” do that! She was 13 or 14, didn’t drive, and was in Seattle, a completely foreign city to her. She had no idea how to get to where they were going!

Do you, or have you, known someone like that?