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How do I know if we are in friend zone?

Asked by dreamisland (23points) April 14th, 2015

First of all, please let me apologize for my grammar since English is my second language. And here I go!

That’s it. I now officially found my long-awaited Mr. Perfect. Was it worth waiting? Yeah, definitely! Because he is smart, kind, gentleman, emotional, sensitive, good-looking, actually handsome but humble, understanding, listener, never miss small details and what’s more I enjoy having chat with him and I am never getting bored just because I like being around him that much.

I’ve known him for almost two years.

But the problem is he doesn’t know that I am really into him. We hang out a lot during the day. We share the same shuttle when we return home from work. Sometimes, we hang out after work hours. We go to cafe, restaurant.

I don’t know whether we are in friend zone. He is one year younger than me and I am manager, he is senior. This shouldn’t be the problem!

If this is the case and we are in friend zone, here is why:
– He doesn’t text.
– When I ask him to go someplace, he doesn’t respond (not all the time).

If we are NOT in the friend zone, here is why: (Hope I don’t fool myself)
– He looks out of the corner of his eye to see what I am doing with my phone
– He tells me the thing that most of his co-worker might be suprised to know
– He shares his concerns with me
– He invites me to have a coffee with him
– He invites me to go to dinner with him
– We can talk about any topics we want. There are no quiet moments

I am not sure if he is interest in me or if I’ve been on his mind or if we are in friend zone. He might think I don’t look but deep inside I am attached to him.
Unfortunately I am weak because I am afraid to know the answer whether he wants me as well.

I want to try anything to be with him but I don’t want to ruin our friendship. I value him greatly and it would grieve me very much if any harm were to destroy it.

He is the only one that I want. And I don’t know what to do. I just can’t move..

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