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What to do about Boyfriends frequent drinking?

Asked by viainfested (435points) June 9th, 2015

I have been dating my boyfriend for about 7 months, we have been living together for almost 4. In this time he has cut back a lot with his drinking. However, I’m still bothered by the fact that he makes excuses to drink frequently throughout the week, every week(4–6 nights), even if it is only 2 to 3 beers a night. I did get caught up in it with him for awhile, but coming from two parents that are alcoholics, I decided to stop and only drink during certain occasions. I know that’s also part of the reason I’m bothered by it. I’ve talked to him numerous times about the issue, and I’m not sure what else to do at this point. He’s admitted to being dependent on it, and keeps saying he’s cutting back slowly… but I haven’t seen any sort of real effort in a little while. The worst part is, he knows how much this bothers me yet it keeps happening. There have been times where I’ve explained this to him, and he still decided to drink immediately after the discussion. I would love for him to get better and change, or even just save it for the weekends… but I already know I don’t want to be with someone longterm who can’t deal with stress or being able to relax without the use of alcohol. Basically any sort of advice concerning this situation would be very much appreciated. I would like to still try and work on things with him, but idk what else to do.

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