Am I clueless? Or would most people have not picked up on this?

I told someone that I didn’t really like this particular woman very much. My friend said, “Oh. It must be because she was constantly insulting you about being a bad housekeeper.” I said that I had no idea what she was talking about. I disliked her for totally different reasons. But I asked her what she was talking about.

She said this woman was constantly complaining behind my back about my messy house, and she would make a big production out of cleaning nonstop whenever I was around. I barely even noticed that she did this. I certainly didn’t find her cleaning stuff to be offensive. Some people do that. I don’t care.

There are only two things that stood out in my memory that would have given me any suspicion that she was trying to be rude. First was one night she was ranting and raving about “filthy” people who didn’t clean their baseboards. She said she washed hers every week. Instead of being offended, I simply wondered why I would care about baseboard washing. She knew I barely vacuumed. Why would she think she’d get a sympathetic ear from me about that?

Second, I was babysitting her son. I went to fix some lunch. I noticed that her stove was dirty. It wasn’t filthy, but it obviously hadn’t been cleaned for a week or two. I was slightly baffled as to why someone who was constantly scrubbing and cleaning her kitchen wouldn’t even touch the stove for weeks at a time. I’m a slob, and even I had a cleaner stove than hers. It was really odd, but not strange enough for me to think too much about at the time. Now that I know that she was just pretending that she cleaned all the time, it makes me laugh. Cleaning the stove didn’t look too impressive, so she never didn’t front of me.

Anyway, if you were messy and someone was always cleaning around you, would you get the hint? Was I clueless to have no idea that she was trying to insult me? I really had no idea at all. I still can’t figure out why she would think I’d even care that she was cleaning all the time. Who cares about stuff like that?