How to help someone who does not want help?

I have a family member that complains that “We as a family do nothing to help him out.” But when we suggest or advise on things we get this run around on why they cannot do that job or ” Because, or….etc. I find it odd they want help but yet push every option of help away.

Here is a good example. September to visit for the weekend at their place. Asked how the job hunt was going (been out of work since 2009). I suggested applying for Holiday work someplace near the home. I get “I cannot drive far from home to use the gas in my car up.” Plus it is only part time work.
Me: If you do a good job they will keep you through Christmas and hire you on a full time basis.

Him: Thanks I will pass.

Me: If it were me I would take it.
Him: Silence.

Week before Thanksgiving. Same thing…but I suggested again trying Christmas work and other family member suggested going out to some stores near him and just applying again. Gets rude with us both. Says enough talk about work. I am done. I cannot talk about this anymore.

Had to change the subject. How do you help someone who does not want help? But then if we don’t help them gets offended at us like we are bad people. I don’t know anymore.