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Is this considered cheating?

Asked by 01101101 (252points) November 30th, 2015

You are in a relationship but things between you and your partner aren’t good. Your partner had several sexual partners before you and this bothered you so much it created self-issues because you were a virgin when you met her. You can’t accept the fact that the past is where it should be, and you want to hurt your partner’s feelings because you feel extremely insecure about her past, so…

You decided to fuck a hooker. Your asshole friends know places and they invited you to come with them and encourage you to fuck a hooker without your partner’s knowledge. Even if you know it’s wrong, you still went with them because you want to take revenge so bad.

At the scene, you realize you love your girlfriend so much you can’t fuck the hooker anymore. So, you decided to talk to the hooker to pass the time. After that, the hooker was fond of you so she gave you her number. Nothing really happened between the both of you but talk. You think this event is insignificant so you decided not to talk to your girlfriend about it and keep it to your grave.

One time your partner’s using your phone and she sees a very strange name in your phonebook, so she asked you who that was. You try to tell her that you weren’t really a virgin when you met her… Y’know, you’ve slept before… even if you didn’t. You told her the hooker’s name and she doesn’t even know that this is a hooker. So, it was fine with her but was kind of pissed you have to lie about it.

Months passed, you forgot about the hooker already and suddenly your girlfriend found out about you going to the brothel with your friends, and the girl that you told her was a hooker. You tried to lie but you’re already caught so you just tell the truth, but the damage has been done and she can’t trust you anymore. To this day, you still convince her that nothing happened between you and the hooker and you try so hard to win your partner’s trust back because you realize how much you love her.

Would you call yourself a cheater? Would this be considered cheating?

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