What do I do with my spouse who is sick of the dog and hates birthdays?

Hi all, Needing to get this out, and also seeking advice. My birthday is fast approaching. My husband knows it is important to me, but is not one to care or believe people beyond five should need birthday celebrations. I accept his feelings, but he cannot seem to accept mine. Tonight I tried on the dress I bought, and aside from not liking it he to told me he thought a new dress was rather indulgent and why did I need to make a fuss. Well, I paid for the dress, waited for the sales, and used money I made selling other things that were mine via consignment. Nevertheless, am I not entitled one day to be indulgent towards myself? He then proceeded to go on for yet another time how he “doesn’t get it” and “why is the day such a big deal?” I finally said can we just agree that we both have different feelings and respect them. If he wants me to ignore his birthday much as I would rather not, I would, and he would have some enthusiasm for my day? He said he would do what I liked, but did not believe in it…

Then on to the dog who is a five month pup. There is much puppy behavior, and he has lost patience for it. He had a dog before, so he knew the trials and tribulations. Now he has no patience, and feels the dog should know what to do. He talks about giving him away…

It has been a lousy night. Advice please! Thank you!