Should I keep my good news to myself?

My significant other and I have been in a happy, committed relationship for about a year and ½ and are delighted with each other. We live together, and in recent months, the topic of eventual marriage and family has come up frequently.

I’m in my late twenties, and he’s in his mid-thirties and both of us are independent professionals with bright futures. We both have experiences with past relationships and before me, he had a ten-year relationship and marriage that ended in divorce when she cheated and abandoned him for a white collar criminal. (Her loss was my gain.)

Needless to say, neither of us was born yesterday, and we both have good heads on our shoulders.

This morning, we were cuddling before work, and he asked me how I would feel about getting married in 2017 and starting to try for a baby in 2018. I told him that I love the idea. However, I think that 2018–2020 would be more realistic for my career and finances.

He was 100% happy to hear this, and I’m excited about our future together. I was also eager to share this recent development with one of my close friends.

I didn’t get the reaction I was hoping for.

A lot of my friends have been unlucky in love. This friend in particular has a lot of relationship issues and tends to go through a string of Mr. Totally Wrongs. Considering this, I maybe shouldn’t have told her my happy news but she’s my friend and I wanted to tell somebody, damn it. (My mom is dead or else I would have called her first.)

Her reaction was that it’s “crazy” and that I should prioritize my career and travel. I’ve lived in three countries and have a successful small business! My boyfriend is a successful attorney in Manhattan and together we’ll earn more than enough to support a thriving child and give them reasonable opportunities.

In 2018, I’ll be a 29-year-old bride, which while isn’t old by any means, is not shockingly young. And if we try for a family in 2020, that means I’ll become a parent in my early 30s (late 30s for my partner), also not shocking by any means for two responsible adults. Not to mention, these aren’t things that will happen tomorrow, but things we’re planning in the future, hardly unheard of for people in committed relationships.

I didn’t bother trying to justify any of the above to my friend, by the way. I know it would just make her dig her heels in deeper for whatever reason. But honestly, I was a little hurt by her reaction. My mom is dead so I don’t have that role in my life to celebrate these little moments so it kind of sucks that my friend can’t be happy for me even if my experience doesn’t exactly mirror her own.

She kind of made me feel like a loser for wanting to marry and have a family with the man I love or like I’m throwing away my future. Because of this, I’m thinking that I won’t say anything else to anyone until we officially get engaged, which could be not for a while. I was just excited because this man makes me happy and well…you know.

Sometimes it’s probably better to keep good news to yourself and just enjoy it.

Anyone ever been in similar situation?