Should people have to prove they're qualified to raise kids before reproducing?

I’m not advocating that the government be given the power to control human reproduction, that would be dangerous.

But, I look around and am sickened by how many unqualified idiots have kids without even thinking about why, or about what their approach to parenting should be once their kids are born; and by how little anyone can do to stop them.

To me, what those people are doing is a crime against humanity, but I sometimes feel like I’m the only one who even notices it (I know I’m not, but nobody else ever mentions it. Whenever “We’re expecting” comes up, for some reason the reaction is always “That’s the greatest thing ever, I’m so happy for you”, as if them deserving to be a parent is a foregone conclusion).

I wouldn’t be a parent, because there’s simply too much that could easily go wrong.
I’m not going to give my incompetence the chance to interfere with the healthy development of a child’s mind, because I take that kind of thing seriously. I wish more people would treat parenting with that kind of apprehension, too, it’s only responsible.

When it comes to having kids, too many people’s minds fall under the control of the “that’s just what you do” axiom, and don’t think any further. For them there’s no question of whether they should do it at all, and if so why and how, but only a question of when they’re going to get around to it.

Too many people make the decision to be parents from a place of pure emotion, and disregard logic.

Too many people give the extremely irresponsible advice “You don’t like kids? Well, just have some, and then you’ll change your mind”.
Taking an entire human life into your hands on the off chance that you might change your mind is kind of a selfish move, considering the irrevocable life-ruining consequences betting wrong will bring. And yet, so many people assume that, if they just have kids, bliss and fulfillment will automatically follow, and that there’s no such thing as not liking being a parent, or as not bonding with your child.

Too many people who want kids are under the impression that “The only time your parents do anything wrong, it’s because they love you and are looking out for you, and you’re just too much of a dumb crybaby to see it yet, but you’ll understand how innocent and harmless all the mistakes they made are when you get older”. I suspect most of the people who repeat that line just have no experience but with kind parents, and thusly assume that that’s how all parents are. This is a dangerous stereotype, because the belief that parents can’t do meaningful harm encourages parental carelessness.

When I find out that someone is going to be a parent, I don’t get excited about it, I usually get scared about it, and lose a lot of respect for them. Nothing I’ve seen yet has proven to me that unfit parents are the minority and not the norm; it feels mathematically impossible.

It seems to me like most, if not all people, have kids for selfish reasons. It feels like parenting itself is an act of selfishness and is inherently evil.
I feel strongly tempted to say “I want to abolish the institution of parenting” sometimes.

There’s always the possibility that I’m blowing the problem out of proportion, that I’m under-/overestimating what parents and their kids are capable of, but from where I’m standing, I can’t see how.

If public school wasn’t such a joke, things might improve. They should be teaching kids about parenting K-12, right, I mean, it’s only the most serious responsibility there is. It’s only the future of the human race we’re talking about, and it’s only an act of unspeakable evil to neglect, abuse or otherwise mistreat your children.

If by the time students exit high school and enter the real world they’re not going to have been taught anything about raising kids specifically, at least they should be taught enough critical thinking skills to be able to examine the situation and realize “It’s entirely possible that I don’t have the resources needed to not ruin my kids’ lives, so maybe, just maybe, I should put off having any until I’m sure I know what I’m doing”. But, of course, they don’t teach critical thinking in schools, and instead subjects with much less (if any) relevance to real life are given priority (algebra).

Alright, I’m done now.

P.S. I know that my premise here sounds like “everyone on Earth is wrong except me”, which may sound arrogant/conceited, but I don’t claim to have any answers that anyone else doesn’t. I’m just listing some of my observations, and asking if they’re accurate/what they prove. I’m open to being proven wrong.

P.P.S. I don’t think my above thoughts were organized that well, sorry if that makes them hard to follow. And sorry about any immature snarkiness that I didn’t remove from my final draft, and any other imperfections. I’m too tired to keep revising, so I’m just going to hit submit for now.