How to accept my mom how she is and stop being annoyed with her?

Asked by Sunshinegirl11 (1110) January 28th, 2017 from iPhone

This question sounds horrible, I understand that. I love my mother to death and if anything were to happen to her i don’t know if I could live… we are very close, we can talk about anything together, but sometimes I swear….

My mom and I are two different personalities. I’ve always been the over achiever, and she has always kind of been lazy… She suffers from depression and I don’t, so it’s hard for me to understand her laziness. I’m always really sweet to her and never argue or anything so she doesn’t know I’m feeling like this.

There are a couple of things that bother me about her. Probably at least 8 hours a day, she lays on the couch and watches tv. Dozing on and off. I don’t know why this irritates me but it does.

Second, she’s over weight and she ALWAYS complains about being fat. She will say “Jenny, I wish I was as skinny as you. I’m so fat”. But the thing is, even with my encouragement, she never exercises, her diet is out of control. She just has no discipline. She will say things like “I wish I could run like you” and it’s so hard for me not to throw tennis shoes at her and say “you can, get off the couch and get moving!”
She does this about a lot of things. “Oh I’m so stupid, i wish I was smart”. Yet she watches tv all day. I have told her that the smartest people on earth read and read and read and read. So why doesn’t she just start by reading?!

Lastly, we have a dog who has horrible teeth and is super overweight. I’ve been brushing his teeth and walking him 4 days a week, but it gets hard for me because I’m a full time student and I have a lot of things to do in one day. My mom has literally nothing to do all day, so why can’t she brush his teeth or walk him once?! Just to help me out a bit. I even made a schedule where we switch days walking him, but she never sticks to it.

Ugh… sorry for the rant. Can someone help? What should I do?