Do you have people in your life who check in on you?

Do you you have people in your life who call you, email, drop by, send cards — just to say, “Hi” or ask how you’ve been, what’s going on with you, etc.

What is that like? And, how do you encourage that behavior?

I have never had that and yet, I check in with people all the time. It’s always been a one way street.

If I stop calling or emailing friends and family, I will rarely to never hear from them again. I’ve had this issue my whole life. I once asked my grandmother, who devoted the majority of her attention to my cousins, why she rarely paid attention to me? She said, “You always seemed to have it all together and knew what you were doing. You don’t really need my help (like your cousins) did.” This didn’t make me feel any better.

Perhaps I am just an out of sight, out of mind kind-of-guy. I don’t know, but the older I get, the more it bothers me.

Any thoughts?