Friend or is he?

Hey guys, I am new here and would love to join this new community.
English isn’t my first language so no rudity about that.

Well I am 26 yrs so I am not a kid.

My question is I have (basically had) a friend (I don’t know if the friendship was/is mutual)

Well he is my husband’s best friends and that’s how I got to know him (I really didn’t have that good of a rep about him untill I got to know him)

By the way till last year I have known him for 6 years

So everything was good and he was really there for me during my down episodes, just having a conversation with him brought so much of mental peace. Well I don’t call or meet up(we live in different countries)

The thing is I have always been the conversation starter with him because initially it was like I messaged him when I felt low and we conversed untill my mood got uplifted and then I wouldn’t message untill I have another episode (I personally had a tough time during the time I got to know him) he patiently answered all of my queries, our conversation are spread throughout the day rather than for sometime during those time I got to know pretty much everything about him but he never really got to know me or ask personal questions ever.

Well the more I got to know him he became more of a everyday i message them type of friend (I do have some female friends that text me everyday and I text few of my friends like that).

My problem started when he wouldn’t write or just say hi even if I don’t write him for a couple of months due to getting busy.
Even if he knew I was having an issue he wouldn’t message saying hey are you alright is everything ok, can I help you, those types of messages. So I confronted him and he said he is usually not the starter with any of his other friends or he is bad at keeping touch (i asked my husband about this and he said yea my friend doesn’t text unless he really has to) but the thing is they get to meet up or talk over the phone which I don’t get to do. (Messaging is just more convenient for me) this kept going on and it really started to frustrate me. The more I thought about it the more I wanted to get rid of this friendship (I always felt if you want to keep in touch you will no matter which type you are).

We spoke about ending our friendship a few times and he was absolutely fine with it (saying he cannot force me to stay) but when I finally gave up is when I realized I really enjoyed his company and I was stupid enough to give up. So I told him I cannot say goodbye and I want to have my friend back in my life and he was ok with it too. But things were not the same he replied less frequent (like before he never failed to reply to my message when he is online and would make sure he does get into my conversation once he is done with work.) Replies got so less frequent he took weeks or he plainly ignored them.

I confronted again about this and he said he was too busy with work and becoming a new dad (no one is too busy for some one of priority) was he so jobless before that he responded prompt?

I don’t know now it’s been almost a year since I messaged him. I sometimes miss texting him but I got used to it now.

Was he really a friend or was he just being kind because I was his best buds wife. If the later was the only reason why did he have to put up with all my moodswings and complaints?

Was I too demanding inspite of him telling me he doesn’t start conversations. (But he was offended that I texted him only when I wanted to rather than regularly initially, inspite of him not starting conversation even once, except for few days after my periodic confrontations.

It was my mistake that I ended the friendship but did he have no importance for me that he didn’t even try to save the friendship.

The other day I causally texted about a favour and he didn’t bother to write (I am pregnant and I wanted to tell him only after 12 weeks due to my miscarriage history, but since he is my husband’s bestie he already knows. (My husbands friend)he old me first when they were pregnant after infertility issues) is it possible he is offended by the fact I didnt tell him about it yet.

Should I even try to work out this relationship.

He is no longer of the same importance to me but he is a nice person and having him around was worth it

All I want to know is should I let this friendship die or do something.