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If love is not unconditional, is it love?
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love
ləv
noun
1.
an intense feeling of deep affection.
“babies fill parents with intense feelings of love”
synonyms: deep affection, fondness, tenderness, warmth, intimacy, attachment, endearment; More
2.
a person or thing that one loves.
“she was the love of his life”
synonyms: beloved, loved one, love of one’s life, dear, dearest, dear one, darling, sweetheart, sweet, angel, honey; More
verb
1.
feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to (someone).
“do you love me?”
synonyms: care very much for, feel deep affection for, hold very dear, adore, think the world of, be devoted to, dote on, idolize, worship;
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The above is Google’s definition. It does not say anything about limits one might put on love.
But that is my quandary. If there are limits, is it love? If I love an aspect of a person or one of their qualities but intensely disdain another facet of that person, do I love them?
What if it’s my mate? If I have reservations about some part of them, do I love them? Can I give my heart completely to a person while holding reservations about an aspect of that person I don’t care for?
What if it’s my child?
Can I say that I love a person while simultaneously holding him/her at arm’s length or without giving all of myself to him/her? Does genuine love require all?
Does love have gradations?
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