What would you do if you found out that a friend, who was cheating on his wife (also your friend) had gotten another woman pregnant?

Asked by Kardamom (33294) August 29th, 2017 from iPhone

A year ago, a couple (friends of my family) moved away abruptly, with little explanation.

I found out, in a roundabout way that the husband had been cheating on the wife for months before they moved away. The husband’s girlfriend, “tagged” the cheater on Facebook, so I became witness to the cheating, although the husband never mentioned it to me or my family, on Facebook, or by any other means.

The wife, tearfully confided in another close friend (that we share) that her husband had been cheating on her, and she was horribly embarrassed and hurt. She didn’t mention her cheating husband’s pregnancy with his “girlfriend.” That was about 6 months ago.

Fast forward to today when we received a birth announcement from the “happy couple” who just had a baby, and are married. This is the first “official” notice me and my family recieved, although I sort of new about it, although it was all just speculation.

I’m pretty disgusted and saddened about the whole situation. It is now confirmed that the husband was cheating on the wife, although he was passing himself off as a wonderful husband and father to us, while he was cheating on his wife.

I haven’t quite processed all of this yet. How would you react?

Would you send the cheaters a card and/or present, or not?

Would you let the cheater know that you can figure out the math? Ask him who the heck this new woman is? Ask him why he treated his wife (my friend) so poorly? Ask him how all of this will affect his little daughter that he already has?

Right now, I don’t plan to do any of the above.