Am I wrong for starting to dislike my boyfriend's family?

Asked by Jocyg1738 (6) December 9th, 2017 from iPhone

So my boyfriend’s mom wanted us (my one month old daughter and I) to go over to eat at her house a few weeks ago since we weren’t spending Thanksgiving with them but I kindly declined to go because my boyfriend’s brothers including his step dad smoke weed in the house and will definitely not have my daughter around that environment. Not only did she get upset but also his siblings at the fact that I said that I wouldn’t go until they stopped smoking in the house. I know she’s my daughters grandma but I feel like she doesn’t respect my daughter or me at all and only cares about seeing her and not her well being. Because if she did she would understand why I will not take my daughter there. If I remember health class correctly when you smoke in a home the smell also attaches to the furniture, curtains, etc.