When you had people in to babysit your kids, did you try to micromanage how they behaved with your kids, or did you tell them just do whatever works for you (with some parameters, like no hitting)?

I always said “Just do whatever you’re comfortable with, except no spanking or hitting.” I’d give them a rough list of what my schedule was like, for example, bedtime at 8. But if the kid was all freaky and didn’t want to go to bed at 8, or kept yelling, then just play it by ear.
I’d say I have a can of Spagettie O’s out for dinner, but if you want to give them something else you can.

I figured it’s not like it would ruin the kid for life to have a different night than normal.

So how did you handle baby sitters?