Am I Being Sensitive?

Ok I feel on an island about this situation, which has happened before. Do you think I have reason to feel left out or am I too sensitive?

This scenario includes my husband, K, his sister’s husband, E, and his mother, father, and sister.

In August E said he wanted to take K’s mom to a concert for her birthday. He asked both of us if we would like to go. The tickets would be free through his work (it’s a huge artist and tickets are VERY expensive) and he wanted a headcount early. We said definitely yes. His mom was excited and really wanted all her kids to be there.

So the concert is this Friday and we checked in with E to confirm we were going because we hadn’t really heard the plan, and he told us we can’t go, he doesn’t have tickets. We found out he got tickets for over 10 other people that E works with and we were shoved out. His mom was very upset to hear this news as well.
After K’s sister heard we weren’t going to go, she started pressuring him to somehow find tickets for us. Yesterday, E offered my husband (reluctantly) 1 ticket.

This exact scenario happened before with a concert for his dad’s b-day. We said we really wanted to go and right before the day he said there weren’t any tickets – yet he invited new people. He found 1 ticket for my husband and I ended up have to buy my own.

Now, usually, my husband says “well I won’t go if you can’t get my wife in!” He makes an effort to be like don’t exclude a member of the family. But he mentioned going without me this time. So my husband, his sister, his sisters’ husband, and his mom and dad all would be going with all these people he works with and I would have to stay home. I feel really left out. Especially since this has happened EXACTLY like this before.

I never, NEVER expect free stuff from E and I always appreciate it when he gets me concert tickets and there have been times I’ve asked if he could get me into a show and he couldn’t and I told him no worries thanks for trying –BUT- my problem is that months in advance he told me I would get to go with everyone, then I don’t and then he finds one ticket for my husband but not me. On top of inviting all his other buddies over me.

His family is a bit odd, they are extremely close and his parents are extremely obsessed with their kids. They don’t treat me like his wife often so I already feel sensitive about not feeling a part of the family.

I know I told my husband he should take the ticket and go without me, but I didn’t think he would be like “OK I will go!” I thought he would stick by his word on these situations. I know I can’t be mad, but my feelings are just really, really hurt.

When I told him I was feeling hurt that it all turned out this way he got defensive and said it’s not personal and started accusing me of being resentful if he went. I feel like he flip flopped on the subject. Like he was just as upset and took it just as personally as me until he was offered the ticket. And I felt like I was required to encourage him to go even though I knew I would miss out and feel sad about not going. Am I in the wrong for feeling this way?