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What are your thoughts on each individual in this story?

Asked by mowens (8403points) December 13th, 2018

If it matters, all the people in this story are gay.

During the end of a long relationship (6+years) Colt had an open relationship with his partner, Nicholas. It was a last-ditch effort to save their relationship. Colt was hooking up with a guy named Braxton.
Nicholas and Colt broke up because their relationship was dead, and Colt introduced Nicholas to Braxton and wanted them to be friends. This did not go well and put the final nail in the coffin. That is the last of Nicholas, in this story.
Colt and Braxton then started dating. This went on for 6 months. During that time, Braxton was introduced to Jake and Max – a couple that had been dating and monogamous for 4 years. Max had decided to propose to Jake once he found work again.
Colt felt at this time that Braxton was not what he was looking for, so he broke off the relationship.
This is the moment Braxton started caring about Colt and took the breakup incredibly hard. He thought about doing many rash things—including committing suicide and joining the military. He took comfort in spending many hours on the phone with Max, who talked him out of doing all those things. Texts were sent, calls were made, and sometimes the conversations were had over discord while playing a video game. This went on for months. Max invited Braxton to hang out with himself and Jake whenever the opportunity arose. They had a weekly game night, and Braxton started coming to that. Colt eventually cut all contact with Braxton for a few months. Which sent him further into depression.
Eventually, Colt met another guy named Tony. They met, because Tony had just moved to town and was a previous friend of Max’s from his traveling days. They hit it off and things were going well for a few months.
Max got sick – and actually ended up getting a colonoscopy. At the time, they thought the colitis (Swollen colon) could possibly be related to some sort of cancer and needed to do a deeper dive, and have a bunch of imaging done. During this time, Max and Braxton spoke less and less. Jake started to work out with Braxton. Every week day for a few months. One day, they went to a festival in town here and Max got sick and went home he paid for everyone’s drinks and told them to have a good time.
Jake and Braxton got drunk and went home. Braxton’s roommate Lance, came up with the idea for them all to try on sexy underwear. They did, and Lance passed out. Jake and Braxton fooled around.
Max got sick a few more times, and over the course of a month, Jake and Braxton messed around 3 more times.
Braxton was permitted to talk to Colt and wanted to hang out with Colt when Tony wasn’t around.
Tony stated he was not comfortable with that, and they broke it off.
The next week Colt and Braxton were dating.
Max started feeling better, it ended up being mostly the stress of being out of a job for 6 or 7 months that caused the feelings he was feeling in his gut. He was given a clean bill of health.
Max decided to propose to Jake, and Jake said yes. 2 days later, he came out with the fact he was cheating on him the past month. At this point, Max and Jake had been dating 5 and a half years.
Max immediately forgives Jake. His reasoning, is that Jake has never been with any other guy, and he feels as though Jake was tricked into this.
Jake wants Max and Braxton to be friends. They try this, and it ends with Max completely ignoring Braxton one night when they all went out. Jake sees this and gets upset. So upset, he punches a TV and breaks it.
Max sees how upset this makes Braxton, and apologies and offers to bring Colt and Braxton coffee about what happened the night before. This is verbdom the text Braxton responds with:
“You don’t need to explain yourself. Honestly your behavior has been unacceptable. If you need to talk something out, then talk it out. Wallowing doesn’t solve anything and only makes things worse. It’s not fair to you and it’s definitely not fair to Jake. Being a grump is on you. You chose that. We all went out together to have fun. You should try to live for the moment once in a while because there were so many good and fun things about last night and I really wish you could have seen it and let yourself have fun. Letting yourself see the good and being happy can offer so much insight when you are in a low place. It’s easier to look at the bad and focus on a source of confrontation. Being happy is harder to define. But knowing what makes you happy helps you through all the bad.”

What are your thoughts on each individual?
Braxton
Max
Tony
Colt
Jake
Nicholas
Lance

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