How Much Do You Do With Your Spouse?

A family member told my husband that it’s “abnormal” and “unhealthy” that we do so much together.

We workout after work and eat dinner together (mon-Fri). He likes to play video games in the evening and I like to do artistic things like sewing, painting, making jewelry etc. I also have an online shop so I will run that that while he gets in some game time.

On the weekends I will sometimes go out shopping while he does whatever he wants to do. Then we will maybe go out to eat together or hang out with a friend. If he has buddies that invite him out he will go out and I’ll do my thing. But when we are both home… we are both home and we hang out TOGETHER.

I don’t have any family or close friends who live in the state so he makes sure I am included in his family visits and outings.

If there are events I am usually there with him. I’m not sure why I am expected to just not go when I am invited…. is this my fault?

I haven’t made a lot of friends since we moved and neither has he but we both know people that we hang out with frequently. I admit, usually, I would rather just have time alone at the house or go out on my own than force myself to hang out with someone just because that’s what everyone else does or like that’s how I’m supposed to be. If I want to spend time with a friend(s) I’ll do it when I want to.

For 5 years he traveled for a living and when he was home I worked nights and he was 9–5. We RARELY saw each other. We both feel like we are making up for it now because we can be together, and we still enjoy being around each other.

He told me he doesn’t see anything wrong with our situation. I asked him to always let me know if he needs space and to know he’s free to go on his own whenever he pleases.

Should I not go to events with him or be with his family so that it doesn’t appear we are some freaky attached at the hip couple?

How much time do you spend away from your spouse or what hobbies do you do together?