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Sex without love?

Asked by Sayd_Whater (439points) March 20th, 2019

Hey guys,
I have been recently out of a long relationship.
Now a great friend of mine has been giving me some hints, but there is a catch.
We have always been great online friends and then we met in real life. Despite his sometimes weird social ways which I have never had a problem with since he has been nothing but kind to me I can only feel grateful for his friendship.
The other day, without asking me, he gave me a pc so that we could play together again since I left my bf… I immediatly said “No!” and got really angry and mad at him, because I felt I could not accept such an expensive gift, plus due to my situation I didnt want to be in debt with him! But then he started crying… Made me fell terrible!
I ended up accepting it against my will but thought it might help me to be happier in my current situation or at least to get distracted.
Of course this was a big thing in my community and rumours of him being love start arising.
His shyness has prevented him from ever asking if I liked him or saying that he likes me. I’d say I don’t if he asks. He asked me if I liked anyone and I said no one at the moment.
In a convo among a group of friend the sex subject came up, having I mentioning that I was short on that area and that it was hard joking saying something like “I could f#ck anything..” which is obviously not true. If anything I just became more picky.
So… That was my mistake, I think, because ever since then, he has been hinting me with what I think are the most sad sex hints ever.
He told me he was a virgin, which is weird cause he is older than me and nothing seems to be wrong with him.
He might be weird but he is not stupid. I feel like he is trying to make me feel bad or sorry for him.
The most stupid thing is that I actually feel bad and sorry for him.
Im actually enternaining the idea in my mind instead of resorting to tinder or something, but feel terrible cause it would b str8 up pitty sex. And if he has feelings they were surely be broken. I don’t think I will do it for any reason other than “why not” if I ever feel like it and for feeling sorry, ahh and also cause I do like him as friend and truly am grateful for his kindness.
Am I terrible person?

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