How to find a good closure after a break up, what helps to move on?

Hello,

It’s been just over a month since my ex broke up with me after a 4 year relationship. It wasn’t a nice or good break up from his side, lots of feelings involved. He has his personal issues he is working on atm aswell (PTSD etc.). I’m quite a harmonic person and just wished out of respect that it would have gone a different way, to say goodbye with respect and in a good manner at least (we have been through so much in these 4 years). It’s very difficult for me to know and feel that someone I loved hates me now or treats me like that.
I know I can’t force it.
He cut me out of his life, deleted all the photos, put his status on single etc.
I find blocking on FB all a bit childish. I mean I’m still greatful for the 4 years and he means/meant a lot to me despite the horrible break up. Even though there is no contact between us and I repect his decision I still feel I didn’t find closure in some way.

* What helped you to move on?

*What is your experience with break ups, will there be some calm after the storm – to connect again in a friendly manner?

Thank you for listening.