What's it like for you when you see your ex around all the time after you separate?

Whether you were the one to break off the relationship, or your partner broke it off, how does it feel when you see them? School, work, community, online—does it make a difference? Does constant contact make the pain worse than only occasional or no contact at all? Or does it help you get used to it?

I would guess that constant contact would make it worse. The reasons why you were together haven’t gone away (for those spurned), and for the spurners, it reminds you of your failure. What do you think?