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This may seem like a silly question, but, if someone said "No, I have not moved on emotionally.", does that mean that they still love the person (or are in love)?

Asked by Jude (32198points) December 16th, 2008

I’m having a hell of a time communicating with a girl who I have been having problems with in a relationship. Right now, I’m “giving her time to think about whether she wants to be in this relationship”. A few things have happened to cause the seperation; I’ve apologized and explained why they happened. She said that she understands, but has shutdown emotionally and says that she’s numb to what is going on between us. Basically, she’s got this wall up it seems and when we talk and I pour my heart out to her, she seems non-emotional—almost robotic in her response. This girl really keeps everything in. I know since we’ve done our separation, she has been having panic attacks daily. Partly due to stresses at work and also to do with us. She’s been having these since our separation (for two weeks) and takes xanax daily to cope. When I asked her if she has moved on emotionally her response was “No, I have not moved on emotionally.” and that was it. She totally avoids talking about mending the relationship. Sometimes I feel as though I am talking to myself when we’re discussing things (actually, I talk and to get her to say anything is like pulling teeth. She will talk about other things, though). She’s told me that she is insecure and a bit sensitive when it comes to relationships. Do you think that she still does love me, but has just turned off those feelings (or numbed them) because it’s too hard for her? Should I back off entirely? This whole thing is killing me, as well.

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