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Justified feelings?

Asked by hahniam (79points) January 19th, 2009

Okay, my best friend just told me that she has been having an affair for the last 5 months. I talked to her Saturday night on the phone. That night I was very consoling and supportive. I truly believe that this was a mistake….a symptom a marriage that has been having problems for over a year.

What I feel betrayed and angry about is the fact that she didn’t tell me for five months. She said it was because our families, not only her and I are so close. I guess she was afraid of a leak back to her husband. I also am very worried for her because she does not see the need to kick this guy to the curb. She stated that she wants to work on her marriage, I know that her husband does. This guy is only going to distract her even if she has cut off the sex part of the affair.

She has been gone for two weeks…at her mother’s house out of state to think about her situation and what she is going to do. She wants to see me tonight. I want to see her too, I have missed my friend, but I am afraid that I will not be able to hide my feelings.

Are my feelings even justified? Sigh…

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