How come when some people learn that you're single they automatically think you need their help to find a mate?

Few things are more annoying to me than people who think there’s something wrong with you because you’re <gasps> single. Like it’s some unfortunate affliction that’s befallen you (or a reason to hit on you before someone else gets you). “OMG, we’ve got to find you someone!” they’ll say with terrified eyes.

. . .

Really, I’m fine.

Here’s my deal: I’m 20 and close to being the first granchild in my entire extended family to graduate. Do you know how many of the young folks in my family have dropped out of college because they wanted to get hitched (or just couldn’t keep their bodies to themselves) before they graduated? Pretty much all of them. Yeah, there’s some pressure on me (just a little), but even aside from that I don’t really feel a need to date anyone. I just want to get to a place in my life where I’m able to support myself and become a responsible adult before I even think about launching myself into the dating world. (Even then, I don’t think I would do it so readily, but never say never, right?)

Yet this seems so unnatural to some people. “Lighten up, have a little fun!” As if you couln’t possibly have fun with a guy without dating him.

Not that I’ve run into a lot of these people lately, but I have in the past (and they irked me to no end) so I was wondering why some people say things like that. I mean, do people really think that every single person was meant to be hitched with someone else (either early on or later in life) and that singledom is some kind of dispicable curse? Or are they just that assuming that everyone else functions the same way they do? Granted, I am exaggerating this a bit, but it seems especially prevalent throughout high school and college. Though I have experienced less of this having transferred to a smaller school (where the average age for students is like in the low 30s.)

Anyways, what do you Flutherers think?