Should we do our best to make it harder to compare ourselves?

The shootings in Germany and Alabama give rise to this question. One online article (“The Profile of a School Shooter: The psychological makeup of individuals involved in school violence”) quotes from various sources, and suggests that alienation is a cause in these shootings:

”...most of the shooters were people who felt out of place and failed at social integration. These individuals attempted, to raise their social status and image by boasting of their violent intentions to others and instill the idea that they could control the fate of others. The US secret service has established the fact that most of the shooters convey that the shootings were as a result of alienation and persecution.”

I believe that it’s harder to be alienated if you don’t know how you compare. Not impossible, by any means, just harder. My kids’ school doesn’t give grades, just long reports. We have little idea of how they are doing compared to other students. If people had less information about how they are doing, there would be more uncertainty, and perhaps less motivation to such violence.

The insecure would feel worse, while the secure would feel even better. The distance between the two would grow, perhaps leading to more stress, and possibly compensatory behavior employing less socially acceptable tactics such as aggressiveness or violence.

I was thinking about the prevalence of sex questions on fluther. Without information, we can suspect we don’t compare well, sexually, but we don’t know for sure. Thus, a majority of men think they are below average. With information, men would know exactly where they stand, and could either definitely feel insecure or good about themselves.

Could uncertainty be good; perhaps reducing alienation, as well as antisocial behavior and violence?