How do you, if at all, avoid others placing their gender norms on your children?

I like long hair on my 3 year old, for example, and my super paranoid parents think that, of course, that makes him a girl (eye roll) and fight with me constantly…after all is said and done, we trim a bit because there are gender norms in place (no matter how much my husband and I hate them) and it’s not up to me to decide to make my kids the subject of people’s (albeit stupid) ridicule…let them grow up and choose their rebellion as they see fit..but still…

also, this isn’t a discussion as to whether you think ridiculous gender norms are necessary all the way back from hunter/gatherers or what have you…and this is NOT about making our sons into daughters as it matters little to me about the sex of my children, I still think gendering them from the womb on is ridiculous…

have there been times in your parenting when you’ve been criticized for how you raise your kids just because people are so close-minded and make your rearing about their insecurities about their femininity or masculinity…geez, if my male kid has long hair doesn’t mean yours has to and etcetera…