When people ask to let them know if you need anything, do you think they really mean it? Would it be more advantageous for one to simply take charge and do something?

I’m laid up recovering from neck surgery. I have had a ton of people, from family to friends to co-workers, ask me to let them know if I or my family needs anything. I am truly touched by the sentiment, and most appreciative of the co-worker who coordinated a three week dinner delivery plan so that my husband and I may focus on keeping the fam running smoothly while Mom is out of commission. Three weeks of homemade dinners for a family of five – that is one of the most touching things I’ve ever experienced. But, I digress. When people ask where help is needed, do you feel comfortable asking? I don’t. Then I get all witty and ask for the name of a plastic surgeon who can take care of my Frankenstein scar, or for a 40 oz. of Old English and a pack of Marlboro menthol lights, just to check reactions. I’d really like someone to clean my house, but I just can’t ask.